Matthew McConaughey refuses to be blackmailed into sex as a teenager

Matthew McConaughey has said he refused to be blackmailed into having sex when he was 15 and drugged and molested by a man when he was 18 to ‘beat him’.

The 52-year-old Dallas Buyers Club star previously shared the harrowing stories in his autobiography, Greenlights, and now detailed the conversations he had with his father, who told him this wasn’t how anyone should be treated.

In Amanda de Cadenet’s podcast The Conversation: About the Men, he said of his parents’ lessons on sexual intimacy and respect: “Well, I had learned, guided by my parents, about respect for a woman, respect for the relationship, respect for sexual intimacy, respect for space.

Speaking: Matthew McConaughey has said he refused to be blackmailed into having sex when he was 15 and drugged and molested by a man when he was 18 to ‘beat him’

“My father had always had this when he taught us the birds and the bees, he left me talking about the birds and the bees. “You’re getting so old that you kiss?” and I said, “Yes, sir.”

“And he says, ‘Well, one day it’ll go beyond that day. It’ll probably go where you’re going to get intimate and there’ll be the chest, and there’ll be below the belt.’ I paraphrase, and he says, “It will happen to you too”.’

He recalled being taught about sexual consent and continued, “And so he goes, and he talks to me, he says, ‘Son, if a man in the situation,’ when he talks to me about a heterosexual relationship, “If you ever find the girl, the female, hesitate, stop”.

“He even said this, he says, ‘You can even feel them hesitate, and then if you stop, they might go, oh no, no, come on. Don’t. Wait until next time.’ And he was right, I kind of got where it was like, “No, no, no. OK, I’m out.” And say, “OK, cool. I’m gone”.

Memoir: Matthew shared the harrowing stories in his autobiography,

Memoir: Matthew shared the harrowing stories in his autobiography, “Greenlights,” and he detailed the conversations he had with his father who told him this was not how anyone should be treated (pictured as a teenager)

The girl said, ‘Oh, well, no, come on.’ And I thought, “No, no, no.” He said, “Trust that you will have another day, if it must be so.”

After the blackmail, the actor was able to have some “healthy sexual relations” with girls who were not “ugly”.

He continued: “But I was very clear, again, that wasn’t right, that wasn’t cool, it wasn’t like that.

“After that I got some healthy sexual relationships and girls that I liked and liked, and slowly we got intimate and it was beautiful and awkward, and all those things, but it wasn’t ugly like that.”

His father James died in 1992, aged 63, when the actor was still in his early twenties.

Matthew said: 'I had been taught, guided by my parents, about respect for a woman, respect for the relationship, respect for sexual intimacy, respect for space' (pictured with his wife Camila Alves in 2019)

Matthew said: ‘I had been taught, guided by my parents, about respect for a woman, respect for the relationship, respect for sexual intimacy, respect for space’ (pictured with his wife Camila Alves in 2019)

When Matthew was harassed a few years later, he said he “didn’t connect the two experiences.”

The actor revealed that as a teenager he was harassed by another man in his memoir.

Matthew wrote of the horrific incident in which he was “beaten unconscious” by his male attacker at the age of 18.

The Dallas Buyer’s Club star adds that he was “in the back of a van” when the attack happened.

The gold star has had no therapy, but said the people around him have helped him cope with the trauma.

Matthew swore to himself that he would never let the abuse he experienced in his adolescence “fear relationships” or keep him from trusting others.

He said, “I’m not going to be afraid of relationships because my first experience was blackmail. uhh. That’s a deviation. No no. It’s not like that.

“And if I go on — and I won’t be beaten. I go, ‘I don’t let that defeat my trust in people and say, ‘No, I can have a healthy relationship.’ Not negotiable. No.’

He added: ‘It happened. Do I deny that it happened? No. I don’t deny it happened. Ugly. Ugh.

“I still get it, even if I tell you this story, I understand — but am I going to wear that? I chose it, non-negotiable, I’m not going to carry that, take that baggage into the life I’m going to lead, and how I treat people and how I trust people, and how I look at circumstances and the risk I can take.”

Matthew’s 304-page memoir, Greenlights, hit shelves on October 20, 2021, and he described the two incidents in his book.

Candid: The actor was still able to have 'healthy sexual relations' with girls who weren't 'ugly' after the blackmail

Candid: The actor was still able to have ‘healthy sexual relations’ with girls who weren’t ‘ugly’ after the blackmail

After the book was published, Matthew explained why he didn’t think it was “constructive” to go into detail about the sexual assaults.

“Ultimately, there’s nothing that I think is constructive about the details,” he said on The Tamron Hall Show.

“I feel like those details, unless I had a really good constructive way of seeing it and that could be recognizable to other people, I felt like those details could have just been grabbed and reported for voyeurism.”

He said he didn’t want to exploit his trauma because then every headline and every TV show would focus on his victimization.

“I also write in the book that I have never felt like a victim,” explains action star The Gentlemen.

Reflective: Matthew's 304-page memoir, Greenlights, hit shelves on October 20, 2021, and he described the two incidents in his book

Reflective: Matthew’s 304-page memoir, Greenlights, hit shelves on October 20, 2021, and he described the two incidents in his book

‘Yes, did I become a victim in those two situations? Secure. But that doesn’t mean that all my life I’ve felt like, “Oh, I was the victim,” or “Oh, I was a victim,” or that those two unfortunate events made me the man I am or are. even an apology.’

Matthew continued: “Those two events happened to me when I was 15 and 18. If they had seemed younger to me, I might have been more confused.

“But when they happened to me, it was very clear to me that they were wrong, that they weren’t ideal, that they weren’t as they should be.”

He said having that clarity was why those situations didn’t stick with him, confuse him, or leave him with “an unrealistic picture of the way the world should work.”

Opening: His book marked the first time Matthew (pictured in 2020) has spoken publicly about both incidents, but he has shown his support for sexual assault charities in the past

Opening: His book marked the first time Matthew (pictured in 2020) has spoken publicly about both incidents, but he has shown his support for sexual assault charities in the past

His book was the the first time Matthew has spoken publicly about both incidents, but he has expressed his support for sexual assault charities in the past.

He was born and raised in Texas and attended the University of Texas at Austin. In 2019, he joined the university as an acting professor, but had previously offered his support in their efforts to eradicate sexual violence on campus.

In 2006, he became involved in the university’s rape program by bringing students home after dark. He was pictured driving a buggy around campus to get everyone back safely.

Matthew now has three children — daughter Vida, 12, and sons Levi, 14, and Livingston, nine — with his eight-year-old wife, Camila Alves.

Matthew met the Brazilian-born model, 40, originally in Hollywood hotspot Hyde in 2006.

2019 family portrait: Matthew now has three children - daughter Vida, 12, and sons Levi, 14, and Livingston, nine - with wife of eight, Camila Alves

2019 family portrait: Matthew now has three children – daughter Vida, 12, and sons Levi, 14, and Livingston, nine – with wife of eight, Camila Alves

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